Stone from a date as a makhr and divorce by sms
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With the stories of divorce among modern Muslims, an encyclopedia of human stupidity can be compiled. There is a real frequent case of young people’s foolishness. Let’s make a reservation right away that this is not an anecdote.
Why believers ask for a date in Makhr is partially understandable. Firstly, everyone wants to get married and have children, parents are non-Muslims, pork is next to halal sausage, and crosses are in the living room – you won’t ask for a lot of makhr. Some try to show in this way their indifference to the material compound man and a penchant for asceticism, imitation of the wives of righteous predecessors. This is commendable, but in practice the consequences are different.
You should (and should) no longer ask for dates, handkerchiefs, a jar of cumin and a hijama set in terry cloth. You need to ask for something meaningful, worthwhile!
By no means diamonds, of course, but something that will indirectly prove the seriousness of the matchmakers. And then the marriage of men more often began to resemble a trip to the store. Married this one – a date in terry, divorced. He married another – again a date, divorced. It can take a long time, one pack of dates will last for several years.
When addressing women, I would like to say: We do not live in the time of the Companions, tabiins do not woo us. And yes, we ourselves are far from their spouses, but makhr is not a formality, wisdom is inherent in this matter.
Do not count and think that all men or most of them are poor! Now it is difficult to meet a man without an iPhone or android, without a laptop and expensive incense. They are not rich, but they are not poor enough to ask for dates in makhr.
If every Muslim woman asks for at least ten thousand rubles in makhr, men will take marriage more seriously, if it is the will of the Almighty. In the meantime, more and more Muslim women are becoming victims of divorce.
Shaykh Salih ibn al-‘Usaymin (may Allah have mercy on him) said:
“Women are not old clothes that you can throw away whenever you want. They are worthy of respect and they have their rights! “
See al-Liga’a al-Shahri, 80.
While there are those who ask for dates in terry, there will be those who are bred by SMS.